What about Porn?

Thanks to technology, pornography has become very widely and easily accessible across Australia.

It has been estimated that as much as 12% of all websites are pornographic in nature.

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It is also estimated that 70% of men watch pornography, as well as 30% of women, indicating that this is not only a male issue (as previously thought).

Given the growth and profitability in the pornographic industry, coupled with the ever-growing use of the Internet, it is clear that not only is pornography a prevalent issue in the population, but that it is an issue that is here to stay.

The Effects of Porn

There are several factors about pornography which have been shown to have a negative affect on marriages. Most prevalent of all, is that people who become addicted to pornography may prefer watching pornography to having sex with their partner. As a result of this, intimacy in the marriage can suffer with one or even both of the partners feeling unwanted and even unloved. These feelings can severely impact the happiness in a relationship and may cause an eventual relationship breakdown.

Discovering that your partner has been secretly viewing pornography leads to a range of intense emotions such as betrayal, embarrassment, humiliation and anger. This might then lead to trust issues in the relationship, as well as anxiety about the partners being away or left alone.

The individual who is using pornography may also be affected negatively, by feelings of constant guilt or the inability to focus at work. If it has developed into an addiction, it can be equally as debilitating to a marriage (if not worse) as an addiction to alcohol or drugs.

Pornographic material frequently presents an unrealistic view of sex, promoting unrealistic expectations on the timing, regularity or length of sexual encounters, which then affect intimate relations.

How a Psychologist Can Help

If you or your partner is struggling with pornography in your relationship, seeing a trained psychologist can be very helpful. This is a very sensitive and private issue and different couples might have different preferences (seeing a therapist together or individually) as to how they would like to address their concerns. We are able to work with the following situations:

  • Individual therapy with the partner who has the issue with pornography;
  • Individual therapy for the other partner to overcome feelings of betrayal and humiliation;
  • Couples therapy to promote forgiveness and working through the resultant difficulties associated with pornography in the marriage.

While this might be an embarrassing and difficult issue to speak to someone about, it is crucial that it be addressed in the context of the relationship.

Come speak to one of our trained therapists today – your relationship is too important to allow pornography to destroy it.

Joey Tai (2)Author: Joey Tai, BA (Psych), Master of Clinical Psychology.

Joey Tai is a Clinical Psychologist who is experienced in working with couples, and has conducted research on couple attraction and couples’ therapy while obtaining his Masters in Clinical Psychology in Brisbane.

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